The Life of A Mom Told by Real Moms
Mommy Interviews. Being a mom can be hard, overwhelming and stressful. No one told us it was going to be easy, but it is worth it. All the sleepless nights, diaper changes, and spit ups are all worth it. You have this little human that you helped create, they look up to you for everything and the last thing we want to do is let them down. I conducted an interview of six real moms who tell their story of what a mom means to them. One thing we all have in common is we love our children unconditionally.
In five words describe mom life
“It is all worth it.” –Brittany
“Rewarding, Challenging, Beautiful, Busy, Blessed.” –Tonya
“Terrifying, exhausting, and Totally Worth It.”- Jeddie
“Challenging, Rewarding, Demanding, amazing, heart.”- Alison
“Constant clash of right and wrong.” – Melissa
“Beautiful, Memorable, Messy, Crazy, Perfect” –Nicole
What was your first reaction when you found out you were pregnant?
“ I was shocked!” – Brittany
“ I cried tears of joy.”- Tonya
“Crazy, Excited, Impatient.”- Jeddie
“ First one was surreal, the second one I was horrified.”-Alison
“Wouldn’t it be funny if it were twins? And it was. Story of my life.”- Melissa
“Shock and fear. Then I was very excited for the little person in my belly. I have high risk pregnancies. I have had several miscarriages so finding out I was pregnant each time was terrifying because I did not know if I would miscarry soon or not. Luckily, 3 out of 4 of my known pregnancies carried to term. 1 of my known pregnancies was a miscarriage shortly after. I had other miscarriages before I even knew I was pregnant.” – Nicole
What is your best memory while being pregnant?
“Hearing his heartbeat for the first time was amazing.” –Brittany
“ Feeling my babies kicks.” – Tonya
“There was this moment, me and my husband realized we are about to have a baby and we start laughing hysterically. The nurse comes in to check on us because she thinks we are crying. She must have thought we were insane but in that moment with so much going on maybe we were just a little insane.”-Jeddie
“ Probably the 2nd trimester, no nausea and enjoying my baby kick.”- Alison
“ Wondering who these tiny humans are inside of me, also who they would look like and act like and grow into.” – Melissa
“Learning that my first child was a little girl, I had her name picked out since the day I found out I was pregnant.” -Nicole
How do you handle a toddler meltdown?
“ It depends on where we are. I used to ignore it. I have learned to talk to him in a stern but calm voice works also.” – Brittany
“I tend to ignore the meltdown, it seems to end pretty quickly.”- Tonya
“My son has not had one yet, he is seventeen months. I am sure it’s coming though.”-Jeddie
“Depends where we are. Talk stern but softly, acknowledge that they may be feeling tired, hungry, and frustrated. Let them know that their behavior is unacceptable.” -Alison
“I have three boys ( 3 yr old twin boys and a 1 yr old boy) it’s different for all three of them. One needs to be talked to and felt like he is being heard the other likes to think he is figuring out his own issues he just needs you to be a sounding board and the other just follows what they do and if all else fails just walk away” – Melissa
“Have one with them, haha! I have had 3 kids. I think my boys had worst meltdowns than my daughter. The first two kids I used to try everything to get them to stop. With my third, I realized that I just needed to ignore it, walk away, and not give him the attention until he settled down.”-Nicole
What has been your scariest moment as a mom?
“Learning that my son’s speech delay might indicate autism, we’re leaning against it now but I still worry.” –Brittany
“My son ended up in the hospital and had to have two blood transfusions.”-Tonya
“When my son was 6 months old, he had Rota virus. There was this moment between trips to the ER and his pediatrician, when I was sitting in the floor trying to get him to drink Pedialyte, he was screaming crying with no tears because he was so dehydrated, and I have never been so terrified or felt so helpless. He was hospitalized that afternoon for five days.” –Jeddie
“ Scariest moment was when I thought my daughter drowned in the lake, I couldn’t find her for a few minutes she managed to swim underwater somehow for a good few minutes as I was panicking.”- Alison
“them getting hurt physically and emotionally. Taking care of small humans and realizing they rely on you solely to protect them for all.” –Melissa
“My daughter was 5 months old and got really sick. They put her in the ICU and they were saying they did not know the outcome. She had a chance of not making it. Worst fear ever. My entire life flashed before my eyes. I could not eat, sleep, or anything for 3 long days not knowing what was going to happen. After 3 days, she finally started getting better.” – Nicole
What is your go to activity when you get alone time?
“Hot bath with a glass of wine and a good book.”- Brittany
“Hot relaxing shower”- Tonya
“ I like to read.” Jeddie
“Relaxing in bed, watching TV or bible study.” –Alison
“Alone time?? Ha! well let’s see maybe a shower by myself?? Paint my nails girly stuff, without having to put sparkle nail polish on my kids fingers and toes.” – Melissa
“Alone time? What’s that? My husband travels for work so he is gone Monday-Friday and sometimes weekends. I have kids in my bed at night, coming into the bathroom when I am trying to shower, saying they cannot sleep, etc. When I do finally get alone time, I am trying to do homework, clean, exercise, and watch my favorite shows all at the same time. Mom Multi-Tasking in style. Alone time is very limited unless it is after they go to bed.” – Nicole
Do you work and balance family life? If so what do you do to make it work?
“I am going back to school, I am home more than most working moms. I still feel obligated to take care of everyone and the household.”- Brittany
“I am a stay at home mom, but I am a hair stylist on the side.” –Tonya
“ I am a stay at home mom, family life is my work. It is still a balancing act, however I will be the first to admit I thought stay at home moms had it easy- I was wrong.” – Jeddie
“My husband and I both work outside the home, I have an hour commute and work from home on Fridays. My husband helps get my girls to school. We work as a team.” -Alison
“I don’t work anymore I did and it was extremely hard. I give so much credit to working Moms.” – Melissa
“I am a master at doing 100 things at once. It drives my husband crazy the way I am always on the go as soon as my feet hit the floor in the morning. I have the motto of so much to do and so little time. I am on the go from the time I wake up until the time I go to bed. I have lots of moms ask me how I do it every day. I just say, I have kids, so I have to do this. I will have me time, when they graduate… maybe. I give up my sleep a lot of times to get things done around the house and my stuff so I have some time with my kids when they are awake and home. It’s just what moms do, I also make schedules and lists to keep me on track.” – Nicole
Share you favorite memory so far with you and your child/children
“We had a Halloween party with lots of kids over, my son was giggling the whole time. It was an amazing feeling. ” -Brittany
“When my son finally warmed up to his baby sissy and asked to hold her. He gave her lots of kisses.” -Tonya
“ The night feeds, where it is just the two of us, it was more than peaceful. He was so warm in my arms, so safe and content.- Jeddie
“ Family vacations are fun, everyone is together having a great time.” – Alison
“I recently visited the college where my husband and I attended and met. Seeing them run around campus and enjoy it like we did made my heart smile. Traveling, I go everywhere with my boys. We are from out of state and bringing them with me to my home town and my husbands hometown and seeing them with friends and family interact with them was so emotional for me. Made me realize maybe I’m not doing such a bang up job raising them!” – Melissa
“I have so many favorite memories. But I would have to say relocating from Missouri to Georgia is a favorite because it was our first big adventure together. I also like our family vacations each year. We go somewhere new and try new things together. I love seeing the excitement on my kids faces each time we go.” – Nicole
What struggle are you facing as a mom right now?
“My son has a significant learning delay and goes to a special education preschool. I struggle with wondering why? Also some guilt, is there anything I could have done to prevent it? ” –Brittany
“ My son has a G-tube, my struggle is getting him to eat by mouth”. -Tonya
“ I am struggling with balance and uncertainty. Am I doing enough as a mom? Trying to get the household work done while spending time with my son. When I have time to myself, I wonder if I need more time with my son. What qualifies as a need to? For example, when to potty train, go to Dr. vs. Tylenol, Day care vs. stay home with me.” – Jeddie
“ I am officially in the teenage years, with the personality changes and mood swings. My girls are very different, one likes sports the other is artistic and likes dance. – Alison
“Meeting other moms who share the same interests as myself with kids in the same age range, it’s a struggle! You know how hard it is to “mom date” while managing a pack of small wild animals?” – Melissa
“My struggle right now is that I am a mom of 3 and have been a stay at home mom for the last two years. I am now back to work full time as of a month ago. I do work remotely, but still never enough time in the day. I am also still in school. I decided to go back to school to get another associates degree. Trying to find time to juggle kids, husband, school, work, activities, and anything else that gets thrown my way is a little tough right now. Hopefully once I get my job training done and also graduate in May, my life won’t be so hectic and I will have more time for my kids. I never feel like I have enough time for them even when I was a stay at home mom.” – Nicole
There you have it, from the mouths of Moms. All the struggles we face everyday can be tough, we all have our unique way of handling them. As moms there is a ton of stuff to stress or worry about but at the end of the day our little miracles are so worth it. We just need to remind ourselves that we are all human and we are all in this together. It is time to get rid of the mom shaming because as the old saying goes “it takes a village.”
Thank you for reading. I hope you enjoyed the real lives of moms! If you would like to contribute and give tips on how you juggle work/family balance leave a comment below and check out my guest post section!