How to handle Motherhood as an Introvert
Motherhood as an Introvert can feel overwhelming. We hear the saying a lot, “Parenthood does not come with a manual.” Neither does being an introvert. You have probably heard that term before.
What is an introvert?
An introvert is to be “inward turning, or focused more on internal thoughts, feelings, and moods rather than seeking out external stimulation. …” That is the definition of an introvert.
I need space!
Ever hear yourself say that? We all need breaks to unwind. An introvert needs it to recharge after feeling drained.
I get drained a lot I try to get downtime when the house is sleeping… Sometimes my time is sleeping. Which we all know how precious sleep is when you have little ones.
You might be labeled shy
I have been labeled shy my whole life. When I was in school I was labeled anti-social, outcast, and a loner. I could have been all those things. I had friends I just kept small groups of friends. That’s ok. I find it easier and more comfortable that way.
You prefer to work alone
Working with people is not what I call a good time. Why work with others when I can just do it myself? I also had meetings when I worked. Do you have any questions? No… Can we please leave now? As I crawled under the desk to hide. I love being creative and I feel like when I can listen to music or take a walk by myself, I am more relaxed and can think clearly.
I love my kid. I can only take so much in one day though. Small outings or playdates I can manage… but group playdates overwhelm me.
Calls you out in front of Everyone…EEK
I am all for helping someone one on one. I overthink a lot and feel like my opinions and thoughts will be criticized or mocked. So in the workplace and in school, I kept my opinions to myself. I hate public speaking. I even fumbled over my wedding vows because I was in front of a crowd!
How do I cope?
- I take it one day at a time. As crazy as that sounds, it took me a long time to get to that point. Just breathe. Do one thing that is overwhelming and go from there.
- I give myself time. even if it is late at night when everyone is sleeping.
- Plan ahead – when I feel overwhelmed what helps me calm down is knowing what is coming next.
- Have one on one meetings or outings with friends and family
- Know that it is ok to say no or not stay the whole party
- My answer is mostly no because I get asked to go out in crowds- I really can’t stand it
Have fun in your own way. There is nothing wrong with staying home and reading a book, I would choose that over anything or listen to music. Life is so busy already, do not waste it on things that you can’t stand. Of course, there are some things that are unavoidable, those we just have to make the most of it.
You have options. It will be ok. Mommin is hard enough without added stress. So be you and know that whatever you do is enough. Be true to you.