How to Succeed in Self Care (Guest Post)
Selfcare and the importance it holds in your life. You intend to treat yourself well and flourish! Then your to-do list takes over and the needs of others push your own out of the way…
Does this sound familiar?
Don’t worry, you can turn your intentions into achievements.
“Self care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.” – Katie Reed
This quote truly encompasses the purpose of self care. Take care of yourself so that you can give the world your best. It just can’t happen the other way around. Your work, your family, your friends… they all deserve the best you.
In practice, regular consideration for yourself is not easy. It can be challenging and even add frustration to your life (yet another thing to do). Where can you find extra time in the day to read a book, have a bath or meet up with a friend? Self care is about prioritization. If you had 25 hours in a day do you think you would actually have an extra hour to relax? Most likely, you would just keep adding extra work on to your task list.
There is no perfect time allotment for self care, or perfect way to achieve it. Just start! Doing something is, after all, better than doing nothing!
Practical Tips to Care for Yourself
Become aware of your present situation. Where does most of your daily energy go? What areas of your life are lacking focus? What makes you feel rejuvenated?
Too often we feel drained because we are over-prioritizing the things that seem important, or scream for our attention, and we end up ignoring the aspects of life that would bring us true happiness. Do your actions (time spent) meet your values (goals)?
Create self care goals in all areas of your life – relationships, career, finances, body, mind and spirit. Add self care, remove unnecessary weights and balance all aspects appropriately. If you have too much in any column you won’t be able to stay upright.
Open your calendar and enter your self care activities like you would a doctor’s appointment. Keep them a high priority. Have you ever skipped exercise because of a pile of dishes on the counter? Getting in that workout is more important to your body and mind and life than getting the dishes clean. Seriously! Make the self care happen. Be amazed of what else can get accomplished when you first succeed in taking care of yourself.
Your system of self care may be totally different from someone else’s. That’s okay! We are all unique. You have to do what works best for you. If a bubble bath doesn’t appeal to you, try sweating it out in a kickboxing class. Listening to calming music may not be beneficial if all you really crave is twenty minutes of quiet in your day. If you need to get a different perspective, some people love to grab a journal and write down their thoughts while others will love to schedule a venting session with a friend. It’s all good!
Things will change. This is normal! As your life circumstances change, so will your priorities, and as a result, the type and amount of self care you may need. It is better for you to accept these fluctuations than to resist them. The most important thing is to accept that you deserve to prioritize yourself, and that you give yourself some time to do that.
Most of all, know that you are not alone! I am Tammy Tkachuk, a certified mental health therapist and life coach in Alberta, Canada. I am also the owner of Transition Life Wellness. As a mother, wife and business owner, I understand the challenges of fitting self care into a busy schedule. Succeeding in self care is worth the time! If you want to get in touch with me feel free to contact me, I would love to hear from you!
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